Dear Emily,

This is my first time ever writing in a question into anyone. So, I'm sorry if I mess this up. But to continue. I haven't been talking to my boyfriend in a couple of days. Its a long distance relationship because he moved to California a while back, so its hard enough -- but to add onto that, he has a temper and if I ignore him for even a day without telling him a logical reason why, he get's incredibly mad at me. Most of the time he's fine, but its just these occasional outbursts.
So, I'm really scared right now that if I talk to him it will turn ugly, again, and he'll drive me into the corner like every other time. I really do like him a lot, but I don't know what I'm going to do. I an almost 18 year old girl, and I've asked all my guy-friends what I should do but they're not very helpful. My girl's aren't sure either. What SHOULD I do? Please help me!

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

I think there's only one thing you can do if you have any sense of self-worth (respect for yourself and how you want to be treated). The next time he gets angry with you, tell him "I don't deserve your anger, I've done nothing wrong, and I'm going to hang-up now and talk to you when you are thinking clearly."  The distance is a source of frustration for both of you, I am sure, and it's time to think about how long you want to carry on a relationship that may very well be past its sell-by date. You're eighteen, not 10, and it's time you mustered the guts to defend yourself and not put up with his issues with anger management. Personally, I'd get out now, and move on with my life. Once you stand up for yourself, it will be easier the next time, and the next. It's really quite liberating. Try it!