Hi, I have been with this guy for almost four years and we have a baby together. I love him so much, and i don't want to lose him. He has cheated on me about five times, went to another state, and came back recently and this girl was texting him. I asked him, he said he didn't know her so i texted her and she said the same thing -- so I don't know and, now, it's so hard trusting him. It drives me crazy cuz now i want to know where he goes. I check his phone and everything --  it's killing me, and it's bothering him, but he doesn't understand me and how i feel. I really love him, but how much of this can I take? He has not done anything or cheated for a while, and i guess its cuz i always check his phone. When i tell him i love him he doesn't say it back. I want him to say he loves me to -- does this mean anything? Please help me

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What you have told me doesn't sound promising. He's lied in the past, and I think it's more than possible he's lying now. The text from that girl seems unlikely she had the wrong number. But even if that were the case, his cheating is an indication he isn't truly interested in family, and I think that's the bottom line. I don't know how much longer you want to put up with your present situation but, if I were you, I'd formulate a plan that doesn't include him in my life other than being the father to my child, financial support for my child, and a future free of suspicion and doubt. That's the problem when you have a child with a guy who can't really commit. You think he will after he finds out you're pregnant and the child is born, but it's more wishful thinking than anything else. Again, formulate a plan -- one you didn't have before, but now realize it's the only way to lead a life as free of uncertainty as it can be.