Dear Miss Emily:

I have been in  a relationship for 25 years. He says it is over. He says I know why but I do not. Can I do anything to change his mind?

------------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------

You don't have any place to start if he's backing out by telling you, "you know why" yet you don't. I would only suspect that the relationship has not been good for some time and, if you go over it in your head, you may be able to come up with some reasons why it's ending: Here are a few areas I think could cause it....... alienation of affection -- limited, to no sexual relationship. Putting others before each other. Lack of communication. Ongoing arguments and no resolution to problems. Does any of this make sense to you?  In another e-mail, give me an idea about how your relationship played out, and what could have been the warning signs He could be blaming you for this -- but I can't tell from what you wrote to me. However, if he has someone else waiting-in-the-wings, he could be laying the blame at your feet, when, it actuality it's because he found someone else.