Miss Emily:

Two weeks ago, i broke up with my boyfriend. We had been going out for almost two years. He has messed up 3 times in our relationship the first one was betrayal and the other two weren't as bad, but pretty bad. He has a bad habit of lying that he is trying to work on and i can see that. Before we broke up, our relationship was plain -- we kissed each other just because we were used to each other it was hurtful. We fought so much that our relationship became simple and plain. We have had broken up 3 or 4 times before. Now we are broken up and he has been doing really good, he treats me way better than all the other times; he tells me what he feels and he treats me like i deserve. We love each other and care for each other. He is my first true love but is it worth for me to try and make things work between me and him, or enough is enough?

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What do you think his motivation is for treating you well, now? I am somewhat suspect. I would think he needs, and depends on you far more than you, him. If you think, suddenly, he has made some miraculous transformation and sees things the way you see them, now (and takes integrity pills), there's not much I can say to dissuade you from seeing where this goes -- again. But do be careful! Two years is a long time to get to know the true nature of a person and, despite some good qualities he may have (you didn't mention them), I doubt they are strong enough, like before, to keep you satisfied for the long-haul. I'm afraid, if you jump right back in to this relationship and things go south, you'll hate yourself for being naive -- and you don't need any more sleepless nights asking yourself why you put up with him. Lying is a hard habit to break. It's coercive, and the intention is rarely anything other than self-serving. I know he's your first love but, there's always a first, for everything, and sometimes it remains just that -- and nothing more. Good luck on this one, and do let me know how it turns out. Believe it or not, I love to be proven wrong.