Dear Miss Emily,

I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year. Throughout the year he has cheated on me about 4 times and the last time was actually recent. I found out not too long ago that I am pregnant and I'm only 17 and he is 18. I broke up with him because I feel like he needs some time to grow up and understand what he really wants in life. He wants me to keep the baby and he wants to work things out, but I've worked things out 3 times before this with him. I would like to have the baby but, as of right now, we are not together and I don't think that having this baby  is a good decision right now because me and him have things that we need to work out together -- and with a baby we're not going to have time to do that. However, I do feel like, with time, he will grow up and finally appreciate me. I want to forgive him and take him back, but I know that if I do that right now, he's just going to keep doing the same thing over and over again. Maybe me not taking him back this time, he will learn his lesson and get his act together. I only plan on giving him one more chance -- just not right now, and I just dont know when. I don't know what to do about the baby that's growing, (im 7 weeks and a  few days)

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

Your make a good case for not starting a family at this age, and with him! Few of this type relationship ever works out and, then, you're with a baby and limited choices in front of you. Life is tough, the economy is terrible, right now, and it takes money to raise a child. Not a good place to be, believe me, if you don't have all your ducks in a row.  But you have options. Look in the phone book and see if you have a local Planned Parenthood. Despite some of the negative press they get from conservative groups, they are there to help you decide what to do. It's a place where you can trust they will lay out your options and help you feel comfortable with the choice you make. Abortion is a possible choice, yes, and you can decide on it (the laws in your state concerning regulations on abortion will apply, however) if that's what you feel is the best course of action. But there's adoption, as well, and some valuable information for you if you do decide to keep the baby.  Do you have parents that will help you with this unfortunate dilemma? It's your life,  and you, and only you will be responsible for the choices you make. Choose wisely, and the chances of you having a good life go up exponentially.