Miss Emily:

I have been with my bf for 8 months now, and he has a tendency to flirt a lot. I read his text messages, recently, and it had things in it that would make you think he's single. He claims he only texts girls like this when he is drunk or high. This keeps happening. SHOULD we just be friends? He really loves me a lot. He has my name tattooed on him and everything, I love him as well, but I don't know how much of this 'flirting' I can take.

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------------------

I guess this depends on what you mean by "he really loves me a lot." To me, that would mean he does not text-flirt with other girls even if he is drunk or high. Imagine if you did the same? I shudder to think how your "bad boy" would digest that. Guys are something, aren't they? Some seem to think just being male gives them the privilege of making a fool out of their girlfriends (and yes, girls can do it to guys, too).  But the real problem seems to lie less with the audacity of guys, but the willingness for girls to take it. Guys would have to shape-up if girls didn't allow bad behavior. If it happened once, I could see giving him a pass. But when his words frequently don't match his actions -- it's time to get out, or you set yourself up for more of the same behavior from him. It's a choice can make. The sad thing is, some girls never realize that youit is a choice.