Dear Miss Emily:

So I met this guy at a dance in November. We talked for a while and he asked me to be his girlfriend on New Year's. I said "yes" then he broke up with me right before Valentine's Day and we got back together mid- March. We have been dating in total for about 3 months and he is already saying he loves me and he wants to be with me forever because he knows I'm the one. I'm 15 and he's 16, and him saying stuff like that really kinda freaks me out. I still have my whole life ahead of me and he's only my first boyfriend. And this weekend he wants to take me out to another Mormon church dance that I really don't want to go to because of how he is acting... What should I do?

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------------

This is an opportunity for you to exert your own power and let him know he's moving way too fast. It's absurd to think forever at this age and, although I know the Mormon religion emphasizes the importance of marriage and family (and I believe "male" authority on many issues),  this is the 21st century and, it's my opinion, girls have every right to pursue their own wants and desires. Hopefully, that's what you would tell your future daughters. What you do depends on his reaction once you tell him you don't want to talk about love or a future -- only enjoy the time you spend together without getting too heavy. If he breaks up with you over this, you end up the winner. If he doesn't, yet continues on this "forever" path or tries to convince you that you can't trust your own feelings, break up with him! You are so right. You have your whole life ahead of you, and it won't be written by this one boyfriend at this tender age.