Miss Emily,

I met my boyfriend on an online site, and we've been dating for about a month and a week now. He's really sweet when we are together, but since he works and goes to the gym, we barely see one another like 2 times a week only. i wish i could see him more often but i understand him. My problem is that i found out that he still has his account on the site were we met, so i decided to create a fake account with someone's pictures, and i gave him a flirt pretending to be that person, and he replied to that flirt. I'm wondering if i should confront him... or should i dump him... or ask him about why he still has that account when he says that he had found what he was always looking for....???

-----------------------------Miss Emily's reply---------------------------------


The dating world is brutal, isn't it? Almost makes you want to become a monk! People say a lot of things, but I think actions are the true measure of a person. If he's still on that site and responded to your fake profile, I think you know where you stand. If you're what he's looking for, seeing him only twice a week doesn't seem to jibe with that glorious sentiment. Perhaps the other days, between work and the gym, he's fitting in some of the other people he also found to be" just what he's looking for." If you told him what you did, he'd only say he was "kidding" or wanted to keep his options open in case you dumped him. It's up to you how you want to handle this -- but I'd probably bow out if I wanted this to move happily forward without feeling I was waiting for the other shoe to drop. Now, if you were really sneaky, you could carry on this fake correspondence and set up a date. That would put him in his place. I can't believe I suggested that!