Dear Miss Emily

I m 20 and I've fallen in love with a 28 year old man .Things were perfect, I loved him, and he loved me. We have been seeing each other for more than a year. I just found out, through his friend, he has impregnated a younger girl than me. I hate the fact, but I love the guy, but I don't want to be 2nd best -- plus why did he have to sleep with the girl? What should I do? How do I move on? please help.

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------------

If you are capable of moving on, that would be my best advice to you. He cheated on you, and you now have proof -- a baby is on the way, and that's pretty proof positive! I don't know if this girl plans to carry this pregnancy full term, but many girls will, under the delusion that this "situation" can turn a guy into a trustworthy partner, and a useful member of society (and good dad) -- but that's often not the case. If he is on the way to becoming a father, he's going to need to support that child financially and, it would be right for him to be an active participant in the child's growing up. You would have that to look forward to and, if he didn't want to step-up-to-the-plate and be responsible for his actions, you pretty much know he's not an honorable person (but we know that already by his cheating on you), and where you and he would be headed if you stayed together. I like to tell my advice seekers, with six billion people on the planet, you have no need to stay with someone who's a liar and a cheat unless you don't have better sense than that.