Dear Miss Emily: I am trying to end a 2 yr relationship with a guy who has lied to me from the start. He has done so many things and I need to know how to be strong and not let him come back into my life. He knows how to make me feel sorry for him. I truly love him but I know that he isn't good for me. ------------------MISS EMILY'S ADVICE---------------------------------------- I think it comes down to asking yourself "Whose life am I living, mine, or his?" That's really what it boils down to in a case like this, because every day you spend in a relationship that is not good for you, it breaks down your emotional strength and your power (your freedom) is given away. This is how he is able to manipulate you into staying with him, and worrying about him, rather than you paying attention to your own needs. There's no easy way to do it, but the relief you will get is the reward. For some people, learning how to say "No" is one of the hardest things to do. But if you think about it, the reason for not being able to say it often comes from a deep-seated insecurity -- a fear. End it (you have my approval!!!), and when he wants to get you back, pull out that one word answer that says so much, "NO." If you can't do that, you need to find the root cause -- the reason why he is in control, and not you.