I  am 33 and i met this 29 year old guy about 8 months ago through a mutual friend.  Initially we would talk on facebook maybe once a week.  about 5 months ago we started talking more frequently on facebook and, eventually, exchanged numbers.  Before we even started talking on the phone, he told me that he had a strained relationship with his mother because she was rather cool towards him when he was growing up. Then he shared with me that he had a "very big wall up" towards relationships because he was hurt by an ex five years ago.  He told me that he avoids relationships, and that  was five months ago.  Since then, we've gotten gradually to the point where we text/talk every day, many times a day.  I have developed strong feelings for him.  Two months ago I went out with him to a bar he hangs out with and met his friends. We talk almost every night before bed, and when he works his overnight shifts he calls me from work.  I have even spent the night at his house. I have slept over his house three times...no hooking up has occurred aside from cuddling.  There does seem to be an awkward tension between us when I do stay there.  My question is...at this point, I really like this guy friend...a lot.  I don't know  how he feels about me though.  I don't know why he has never kissed me.  I don't want to ruin what we have now, but I am getting frustrated.  Maybe he thinks we are just good friends?  should I try to kiss him?  Should I just be happy with the way things are now?

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------------

I'm a little dubious about the success of this relationship. Maybe I'm just overly cautious, but a guy who has a strained relationship with his mom, (he perceives her to be a cold fish) and a lousy breakup five years ago (which is a long time to hold in the anger and fear of getting involved, again) is going to be a tough nut to crack -- and, even if you do, will his past anger toward women extend to you if you and he were to get serious? I'd get this all hammered out before you fall too hard. A man who has issues with "Mom" can be a guy who seeks a benevolent "Mommy" at heart. And if you were to have issues come up in the relationship (which is the norm) will he dismiss you as "just like Mom" and recreate the barrier that he has already warned you about? Only you can decide when to have "the talk." But I recommend it if it gets past where you are now, because you need to tell him you're not his mom (or ex), don't want the job, and you will only accept being treated as an individual with feelings and emotions all your own. When I was young, I remember reading a Dear Abby column, and it was the first time I had read these words, "Never marry a man who hates his mother." Now you may not marry this man, but he has problems with commitment because of women, and you might have to walk on eggshells to avoid being labeled. If this present circumstance seems to drag on too long without some movement in the relationship, it might be for the better. There are red flags and, in this case, he's even warned you about them. Tread lightly. I may be wrong, but it's good to have the heads up in case I am even close to being right.