Dear Miss Emily:

I'm a 29 yr. old female. I reconciled with my ex early this year after our breakup last year-- dating for 2 months. I asked him to go for HIV tests before we engage ourselves to sex and he agreed. I went for my tests and came out negative. I informed him of the results and he said he will go. Its been 3 weeks already and he hasn't done anything about it. He tried making love to me once and I refused -- to show him how serious I am about the HIV tests. How serious is he about this relationship? Do I have a future with this man? How do I
 approach him?

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------------

You have every right to ask him to take the HIV test and, yes, if he truly cared about you he would go. He may think it's a waste of time, but you did it, you're trying to be cautious because you can't take the risk, no matter how remote, and that's the bottom line. It's up to you, but I don't think I'd see him again until he has the test results in his hot little hand. What do you have to lose? If he shines it, you have your answer as to how serious he was about his relationship with you.