Dear Miss Emily:

Well, I was going out with my best friend (he's a boy) and everything was going good. And then this chick told me he was cheating on me so we broke up. But I didn't want to break up. Now I lost my best friend and my boyfriend. I want both back but don't know what to do. By the way, the girl was lying when she told me he was cheating on me.

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Wow, girls can be horrid, can't they? Nothing has changed since I was your age. This seems so common, because I get many letters to prove it. Girls are nasty in different ways than boys. Fifty percent of the time this information is true, and fifty percent of the time it isn't. You have to consider the reliability of the source. But cheating is not totally out the the realm of possibility in almost any relationship and, so, I think that's why you believed her. You can't un-ring this bell, however. All you can do is tell him you made a terrible mistake (which I am sure you already have), and hope that someday, soon, he can forgive you. And let it go. No pleading, no desperate attempts to get him back. It's demeaning. If he really cares for you, he'll understand that you acted on information you thought was reliable -- because you had no idea that someone was capable of deceiving you in this hurtful, cruel manner -- and this kind of behavior is alien to you. Information like this can be "iffy" unless you have others who can attest to it, there's a pattern, or there is actual film footage! This is why, when you hear something like this, you have to act on trust alone unless you have more proof than one person's statement.