Emily:

I've been seeing a great woman for a month now and we both enjoy each others company. She is a correction's officer at the county jail. The rest of her coworkers are men and they are like a great big family. I understand that they have to depend on each other daily and I have a lot of respect for them. The problem is that the men she works with don't think that any one she chooses to date is good enough for her. They are very protective of her even outside of the workplace. They constantly call her to see if she needs them to come over to get rid of me. Is there anything I can do to ease their minds? I don't know any of them personally, just from what she tells me of them. I have nothing but respect for her, them, and what they do. She has said that in the past, her coworkers have intimidated her boyfriends to make them run away. Any ideas on how to make them see that I'm a good guy and that they don't need to worry about her when I'm with her? I was thinking about having several dozen donuts delivered to them as a peace offering.

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------


Ah, you're a keeper! But they've seen it all, and no one knows men better than these guys. I think the best thing you can do is hang in there. If someone is driven off by a bunch of overly-protective cops-- the cops have made their point. If it's possible, get to know one or two of them in a social setting. Word will travel fast if they see you're a good guy. But don't kiss any butts. That's the first thing they'll go after. A couple boxes of donuts probably wouldn't hurt, however. A way to a man's heart is through his stomach, and this may be no exception. Good luck to you.