Dear Miss Emily:

What should i do? I feel hurt but mostly I just feel sad that he though this was his only route to take, that he had no other option. He is incredibly shy and a very smart man and truthfully he made this decision before i even knew him. He is my perfect man in every way and this choice although not one i would make does not alter the fact that I love him. He has reassured me that now i am in his life he would not see another one. What does this mean for our relationship, would it of been better for me not to know. He was being honest when I jokingly asked if he has ever been to a brothel? I never thought he would say yes to the question.
I think it takes an awfully strong man to tell me the truth, he didn't lie about it, like i'm sure a lot of men do and what it comes down to is that Yes this happened but i know in my heart if i let this stew, that I could loose the only man I have ever truly loved.

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Read these words you wrote, one more time, and believe them, because that's exactly how I feel. "I think it takes an awfully strong man to tell me the truth. He didn't lie about it, like i'm sure a lot of men do and what it comes down to is that yes this happened, but i know in my heart if i let this stew, that I could loose the only man I have ever truly loved."  Don't punish him for something that is common for the first sexual experience, especially in men who are shy. You don't even have to forgive this event (if you thought you did) because it's not even part of the equation. My opinion? Forget it, and realize that you have yourself a very special man -- who, by the way, is human.