Dear Miss Emily:

I'm 17.  I was with this amazing girl for just under a year. Things were great, but I think she simply became bored of me, and I was too suspicious of her texting other lads, etc.  We're finished 6, 7 months now and starting to talk again. I met up with her recently for a chat and we were really nice and friendly to each other and had a great laugh! I had almost forgot we weren't  together at the end of the day.  But when we were sitting down, joking and laughing, she persisted to mention 'how wrong we were for each other' and laughing about it. I kind of had to play along but this isn't at all how i feel. I'm crazy about her, still.  Anyway, to get to the point, by keeping in contact with her am I doing the right thing in order to get her back? Or am I slowly becoming a close friend and going to be hurt even more?  She's sort of seeing somone at the moment, were as I'm only meeting girls out at clubs and pubs for one nights. This isn't what I want. I just want her and nobody else. She's perfect in my eyes.  So.. if ya can help, that would be great. Thanks a lot.

-----------------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------------

Recently, I saw a movie called 500 Days of Summer. If you haven't seen it, rent it. I think it fits into your letter. Little is cast in stone, and something could happen down the line, but I wouldn't bet on it as a sure things if you just bide your time as her friend and wait for her to realize that she was wrong -- and you two do complete each other! I contend that if you go into a situation hoping that the outcome will be something other than what you present on the outside, you set yourself up to be extremely disappointed when the deception does not pan out. I'm for telling her you really aren't over her, and take it from there. It saves so much time, and it keeps the anger at bay if it doesn't go your way.  She's probably pretty spot-on about why you two were wrong for each other. And maybe she's only speaking for herself, but it takes two to make a relationship work, and when one the twosome is no longer invested, it would have to take an act of god to change it.