Happy New Year Miss Emily!

I have a problem. My girlfriend is the most boring person one could meet. I think when God was passing out personality, romantic, and fun genes she stepped out of line to use the bathroom! We have been together for almost two years, and she has never taken planned a get away day, a vacation, cooked me a meal, planned a romantic evening or as much as taken me out without me asking her or telling her to. Yet when ever I bring it to her attention...she tries so hard to show me that she cares for about a week. Then it's right back to reality. Her excuse is always that it's her personality. I do everything my lady, you, and any woman you could think of would want. I cook, clean, take her out twice a month, rent movies, tell her how beautiful she is and God knows what else. We stay over two hours apart or I would do more!!! What can I do to help her become more comfortable doing more in our relationship?

----------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Thanks, and Happy New Year to you, as well!  But in your new year, I think it's time to make some hard choices. You are asking for something that your girlfriend, apparently, is not capable of doing. Now I'm not going to say it's anyone's fault because, it may be, at the end of the day, that you two aren't suited for each other and it's as simple as that. It's possible another guy could bring out something in her that you cannot -- but it is a fact that you are not happy in the relationship as it stands; although you and she may be good friends. But friendship does not carry the day in the type of relationship you want from a girlfriend. Bite the bullet, admit it, and consider breaking up. It should bring some clarity to this "boring" relationship. If that turns out to be a mistake (which I doubt), your boring girlfriend will probably be waiting in the wings ready to pick up where you and she left off.