My marriage is a total wreck. I'm 40 and he's 36. I have been lied to and cheated on. Due to the past, and the law we are not living together. He lives with friends which he loves. When dealing with his personal business, I have to remind him and it never gets done. This is a 2 year marriage, and I do love him but I'm hurting. It makes me feel like I'm in this alone, and the word marriage is holding me back.  I have raised two kids 21, and 19 and out of a 2 year marriage, I have lost everything.  I currently live with my sister. Can this marriage work or shall I draw up divorce papers?

-------------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

It can't work the way you describe it. I don't know why the past and the law precludes you from living with him and having a traditional marriage -- you might want to enlighten me on that subject. But in case you don't, do your level best to work this out. However, if you are past the point of no return, file for divorce and move on with your life. We have a short time on this planet, and to suffer, indefinitely, for a mistake that can be corrected (although painful) is the biggest mistake of all.