Hello Miss Emily,

About 2 months ago, I ended a four year relationship with a guy I thought was the right one for me. While I was trying to end the relationship, his friend started to talk to me. I used to talk to his friend everyday and was planning for him to come and hang out with me.  We stopped talking for a while and, then, he called me one night out of the blue and we talked for hours. I told this guy that I always had a crush on him, and he told me that he always has had one too. We talked for weeks and then he told me he loves me and I completely feel the same way. So by then, we were technically boyfriend and girlfriend. When my ex moved out of my house, I drove 30 hours to Texas to visit with this new guy. I stayed for a week and it was the best week of my life. He told me he has never felt so happy with someone before and how much he is in love with me. But after I left, I feel things have changed between us. We call each other everyday but the conversations between us are very quiet. Some days they aren't, but most of the time they are. I love him with all my heart, and I know I want to be with him forever. But sometimes I feel like I am the only one that feels this way. I don't know how to describe it.  He tells me how much he wants to be with me, and he even asked me to be his wife ( I said yes). But I feel like sometimes he doesn't want to talk to me, and is trying to convince himself he wants to. I'm just confused.

---------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Is it possible that your insecurity comes from the fact that, although you love him, you don't really know him? Because you seem to have the cart before the horse. A crush, lots of phone time, and a week in Texas with him doesn't spell a lifelong commitment to me. You just came off a four-year relationship, and this is all happening too soon. I don't know if being together requires you to pull up stakes and move to Texas but, if it does, I'd make pretty damn sure this was right from day one, and not have second thoughts while you're packing up that rusty U-Haul. Act in haste, repent in leisure. That said, I do not discount the fact that this may be a relationship made in heaven. But the quickness of it scares me, and it may be the root of your concern, as well.