Dear Miss Emily:

I like this guy, but I don't know how he feels about me. He's an actor at our school. Everyone loves him. He's nice, sweet, and hilarious.The other day we went on a choir trip, and we were kidding around and not really flirting but joking and it was nothing. Then we went to sing and he put his arm around me, twice. Then on the bus he offered to sit next to me and he put his arm around me and put his jacket over me. I think maybe he was just kidding, but I'm not sure. Then later that night his band had a "gig" and I went and he kept smiling at me while he was singing. He came over to talk to me before he went on, and afterward. He also messaged me on facebook later and said thanks for coming that night. I then texted him good luck for his gig the next day, and he said "Thanks." That was it. I talked to him later that night and all he said was "The gig went great, thanks." I don't think he texts much at all but I don't know. Maybe
I'm looking into this way too much but still I want to know what you think. I forgot to mention that he "apparently" likes another girl. But he wouldn't have done that stuff if it was that serious, right?

------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------

On the face of it, he does seem to like you. But I do understand your concern. If he's an actor, his gregarious nature, and winning ways may be the greatest part he plays. Right now, you don't really know. I do think he's very busy, hence the short-and-sweet messages. Guys aren't usually into texting like their female counterparts. Presently, you're going to have to let this unfold, naturally. Avoid appearing too eager, and always come off like you are self-assured and carefree. Keep any text messages to a minimum. In time, you'll know if his MO in life is to be loved by the world, or he has a genuine interest in you. And by-the-way, keep your thoughts about him close to the vest. I know there is a temptation to tell people how much you like him, but I don't trust teenagers not to start gossiping and, sometimes, maliciously, when they have the opportunity. A cautious approach would be prudent.