Dear Miss Emily:

Hi, I am a 21 year old female, and I have been with my boyfriend for 5years. Over the past couple of months, he has been staying out really late (3-4a.m.) with his friends.We fight about it a lot. He try's to flip the argument around like it's my fault, then gives me a speech about he needs space. I have two jobs. We don't get to see each other that much, anymore. I don't know what to do. I am crying myself to sleep when he's not here.

-----------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

Maybe I'm just the suspicious type, but when a guy suddenly starts hanging out with "friends" until 3 or 4 in the morning, it usually (not always) means the "friends" is a "friend" and a woman. You seem too busy (and extremely trusting) to not have come to this conclusion. It's a common approach for someone who is at fault to turn himself (to be fair, herself) into the "victim." I always wonder if it's just men who have the talent for doing this, or women do it, as well. I know I never even thought of trying to pull it off. It's insulting to one's intelligence. Get to the bottom of it, but don't nag any longer, or give him any excuse to justify his bad behavior. Even if he's not seeking outside female companionship, his attitude and ability to ignore your concerns do not speak well of him, or the relationship. Another woman, or not, you need to find a way to settle this by getting to the truth. Many of my advice seekers check the computer and cell phone history of the person whom they do not trust. But I'm not suggesting that. No, not me!