Dear Miss Emily:

I  am in love with a guy, and I know he loves me.  I want him to marry me but he say he will never get married again. What should I do?

---------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------

Never is a long time.  But I'd take him at his word, because you can't afford the emotional letdown if you find you invested your time in something that was based on hope, rather than reality. If marriage is what you want, find a man who thinks of like mind. Otherwise, embrace what you have with him, keep your finances separate, and maintain your own independence. Avoid feeling unworthy, and not marriage material. If somewhere down the line it isn't working for you, walk away with your dignity intact and avoid the blame game.