Emily, I need your help. I have been with my fiance for about 5 years now and we are getting married in a few months.  My problem is that over the past couple of months, I have had a strong temptation/connection towards his cousin. His cousin recently got out of a relationship and has been hanging out with us more. The more he hangs out with us the more I find I have in common with him. Now I love fiance a lot, and he is a great man that cares for me deeply and only wants me to be happy, and I love him for that. The problem is, I would never want to hurt him, but these feelings of temptation are getting to me. Now I know what flaws are in our relationship and maybe I look to his cousin to replace these flaws -- like the fact I think my fiance never listens to me and his cousin always seems too. I just don't know what to do.What do I do? I know I cannot give into temptation, and I don't think that the cousin would even think about doing something like that to his own family member. I don't know, its just the way he looks at me makes me think hes thinking that same thing too. So now what? Do I confront Mike about my feelings and thoughts or just let things run its course?

--------------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------

When you say, "I somehow think that I met my fiance to meet [this man] and we were supposed to be together," that's troubling, because now you are looking for an excuse to blame fate for your feelings, rather than you taking responsibility for them. You and your fiance's cousin are hanging out together under new circumstances (he's single now) and, because of that, he's attentive to what you say -- and maybe there are furtive glances of interest. But that doesn't mean this is a sign of kismet, or a never ending listening capacity to your every word -- and eternal devotion.  You don't know each other well enough to cement that kind of thinking. But it is a sign that you are having doubts about your fiance, and that needs to be addressed. If he's not a good listener (and whatever else) tell him you need to work on this prior to marrying him. Maybe you will end up realizing that the five years together doesn't spell out a lifelong commitment. But I'd get this figured out before you continue to send out vibes to his relative, and dump your fiance. This could backfire in a big way if you're not careful. After all, this guy is family and you wouldn't want to open up a Pandora's Box without being sure you can handle the consequences.