Dear Miss Emily:

I'll try to keep this short and sweet. My husband is the least jealous man I have ever met, which is wonderful, no stress. I am friends with two women in particular whom he thinks are having a bad influence on me: one has cheated on her husband and the other is thinking about seeing another man yet she has a boyfriend (of 4 years). They are both very drama filled women and I am very simple. My husband thinks their drama and attitudes are rubbing off on me, I don't believe this to be 100% true, only partially. I went out with friend #2 the other night (the one with the boyfriend) and we had a couple of beers and we ended up meeting and dancing with these two nice guys and we all exchanged numbers, nothing more. I told my husband about dancing with another man, but not about giving him my number because I thought he would be upset. I had no intentions of being romantically or sexually involved with the man I gave my number to, just thought it would upset the hubby. The next day I told him that I gave that guy my number and he said that was fine, however, later in the day he told me that he wasn't upset that I gave my number out but I felt I had to hide it from him. Now between me lying to him and having cheating friends, I don't think he believes me when I say nothing happened. He said he needed some time to cool down, tonight, and given space which I am respecting. How do I convince him I'm not a liar, and how do I shine through and be myself and not so impressionable around my friends? Thanks Emily.

-------------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------------

That husband of yours is some guy. And this is why: He seems to understand human nature, all too well, and cuts a wide birth. But there are limits! What did you think you were doing by exchanging numbers? Were you going to invite one of them to dinner with you and your husband? Were you afraid to admit you were married? Did you like the idea of feeling single for that moment in time? If you're going to think it's the influence of your wild-and-crazy friends (and your husband's belief in this) you are wrong, or tremendously weak of character. Example: A smoker loves to have someone share a smoke with him (her) -- it makes him feel less guilty for doing it. Do you have a smoke because that person's doing it? Do you do it because you want one? Or do you say, "No, I don't smoke"? I'd get to the gut reason why you did this, and sit down and discuss it with your husband. You may have to make a choice over who's more important in your life -- your husband, or your complicated friends.