Dear Miss Emily:

I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for 8 months now. He is only 2 hours away but it's still a long ways away when you're in a relationship! I'm 23, live in a small town where all my family is and I've owned a boutique here for 2 years now. I have come to the conclusion that I'm not so much a small town girl and can't see myself living here for the rest of my life. My boyfriend is 31, lives in the city, has a house, a career, is very settled and does not plan on moving anywhere. I am the one that has to make the life change and be the one to take our relationship to the next level and move up there. Whenever the topic comes up, I'm completely overwhelmed and stressed to the max because I have my business (which isn't a big money making business) here, and my family. Other than those two things I don't have a lot going in this small town so there is no point even for him to move here (not!that he would). So I have to figure out how to make this work!  I want both my business and my boyfriend, but how do you juggle that when they are both 2 hours away from each other. He brought up closing the boutique for the winter seeing how it makes most of the money in the summer tourist time. I don't want to fail either of them. My parents don't want to see my throw my business away that they helped me start for a guy, so I don't want to let them down either......I'm really confused...please help! Thank You!

--------------------------Miss Emily's advice------------------------

Small town girl, or not, you'd be giving up a great deal to be with this guy after only eight months of knowing him. Wouldn't it be better to wait a while longer, and see which way you tip, then?  Maybe the city does beckon you, but it might be that the call is greater because of him.  And that would be fine if you had a stronger commitment than what you have at this point. Is there any way you can get someone who is reliable to watch the shop while you visit him for longer periods? And what plan would you have for work if you were to move? Of course, these are real questions that need to be answered -- because as I always say (ad nauseam) "Act in haste, repent in leisure."  BUT, if the business is really more of an obligation because of your parents, and less your life's calling, you might entertain the idea of selling it -- pay back your parents -- and set your sails in a new direction.