Dear Miss Emily:

There is this girl that I love terribly, and I think about her all the time -- she makes me incredibly happy. She gets on my nerves in the good way. We met two years ago and have been together for a year-ish. The only problem is that I moved to go to medical school and she didn't like that, and so we've been fighting more or less all the time. It seems that I can't do anything right these days and she is constantly telling me off. She said she wanted a break, which I said was fine because I needed one too. The problem is "we're taking a break" and  I didn't assume that she was going to see other people. I mean, she expects me to remain faithful while she sleeps with other people. Then she said she was going to be away with family this weekend and I said "okay," only to find out that she was going to be waking up to a guy. Should I just cut my strings now? She's lied to me, she's slept around and nearly gotten pregnant when we were broken up and, even when we talk about the future, it's all about what she wants. She wants to move to Germany, to which I have an issue with because I don't speak German and I do want to be a good doctor -- having a language barrier is not that great. That, and she wants me to fund all this while she searches for the perfect profession.  She's gone from tattoo artist, to photographer and everything in between, and I've encouraged her every step of the way. I think I've been a decent lover to her. Obviously, I'm not perfect but I've told her I love her every day, and each day I've meant it. My only problem is if it is time to finally move on, how am I supposed to cut the strings she has on me?

--------------------Miss Emily's advice-----------------

Moving to go to medical school was the best idea you had.  Assuming your e-mail is as sincere as I believe it to be, I hope you make a better doctor than a guy trying to figure out where he went wrong in a one-way relationship.  Look, it's simple:  Anyone worth your time and effort, doesn't get angry at you because your goal is to be a doctor, and you had to go to a place where you were accepted.  Nor does that person sleep around, lay guilt trips, and treat you like her whipping boy. It seems pretty basic to me -- man up and tell her it's over.  If there is anything worth keeping in this relationship, let her be the one to find it and seek you out. But be careful if she does. She may not like losing the guy who took her abuse and still said "I love you" ad infinitum. It could lead you back to square one. Hopefully, once you get to your studies, in earnest, you won't have time to even indulge in thinking about a woman who has repeatedly taken you for granted, and you let it happen.  The wound will heal, you'll see.