Dear Miss Emily:

My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately and nothing ever gets resolved. We stop fighting for a little while, but when I say we need to talk, he says there is nothing to talk about. I feel like I'm losing him and nothing I do is good enough anymore. What can I do to  make our relationship better, or why does he just brush-off our problems like its nothing?

--------------Miss Emily's advice------------

People fight in relationships, but it really boils down to what you fight about.  In a good relationship, there will always be some differences of opinion. A bad day can make a person loaded for bear. But if the arguments persist, and nothing gets resolved, it becomes a vicious cycle. If your concerns are legitimate (you're not trying to change the basic nature of him), but he casts them aside because he's selfish (or simply deficient in communication skills) and, as a result, he just can't be bothered with the girlfriend who "never shuts up," you have little chance of working things out with him.  Figure out what the differences are between you, how much of a role you play in things going south, and see if you can change the patterns of behavior by using a tactic that is non-confrontational, but gives him an opportunity to respond rather than dismiss you. If this new approach gets you nowhere, at some point you're going to have to realize he's not the guy for you and face it before you end up hating each other.