Dear Miss Emily:

I have been together with this guy since 11-07.  Our relationship has been rocky since the beginning. We split up 11-08, a couple of weeks after our one year anniversary.  For 3 months we were both seeing other people -well he was seeing one person and I happened to get pregnant from a fling- (big mistake but I don't regret it) In February, we decided to try again -- him knowing I am pregnant by someone else (he threw it in my face a couple of times because we had tried to conceive before but had no luck -- but is now warm to the fact of a child..and has been overall involved in my pregnancy with an open mind ).  But it still seems we fight all the time. I am a very emotional ,and he is not. I have no doubt in my mind that he loves and cares for me, but all the emotional stress this relationship has put on both me and him has me wondering is it really worth it and can it get better and if it can HOW?

-----------------Miss Emily's advice--------------

In one sense, you make it sound all so easy.  You got pregnant by another guy, but this man is willing to accept it.  I think the same scenario is going on in the soap opera The Young and the Restless  (Did I give myself away?).  But the reality, as you have stated, is how can you make it work when you really couldn't prior to the pregnancy?  And now you have a child to consider.  And I wonder, because you didn't state this, where is the biological father? Does he even know about this?  If he does, will he cause problems down the road?  These big issues aside, the only way you can make it work is to decide to make it work -- and that takes two.  You are going to have to take a stand on this in order to avoid having this child suffer the consequences of two people who don't know what they want, and fight all the time because of it.  If you and this man can't start fresh, settle your differences, and move forward rather than stay mired in the past, you will  not succeed, and you might as well face it before you sit back with your big belly, spending your day hoping the love fairy spreads her dust on your relationship, solving all of your problems.  Work it out, or end it -- for your emotional well-being -- and the baby's!