Dear Miss Emily:

Hey, I having a lot of problems. I'll start off by saying, I've been in this relationship for 3 years.  Our sex life is dead. About 6 months into are relationship, we had  a Miscarriage. I don't know if this could have anything to do with it. It seems like any time I mention sex, she's either tired, or there's something else wrong. To tell you the truth, I don't know how much more I can take of it.  I love her more than I have ever loved anyone. But I'm just so lost. I find myself depressed. and thinking about it more and more. Please help me.

--------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------

Sex is usually an important part of any committed relationship (unless both parties agree it is not), and if she's not on board with working this out with you (and maybe seek counseling on it), I would say it's time for you to make a tough choice and end it. Even if the miscarriage has something to do with her standoff and she's dealing with an underlying depression, it's a problem that needs to be addressed.  You may love her but, again, the glue that binds is missing -- passion and intimacy!  She needs to understand the severity of this matter, and not sweep it under the rug.  She is calling the shots and you are letting it happen. You don't have to be cruel in your approach -- be gentle, but be firm.  That's how mature adults should handle their lives.