Dear Miss Emily:

My husband and I have been together for 6 years, married 2.  We separated last year over accusations of cheating (he accused me) and other issues.  He immediately began a relationship during our separation.  We have been attempting counseling and reconciliation.  While fixing dinner for him at his place, I found illicit photos of him and his other woman.  He made an attempt to convince me he destroyed them and upon asking to see them again caught him with the pics.  He never apologized or wanted to discuss it.  At this point I am not sure if we can get past this situation.  I feel I've done all I can do and have never cheated on my husband.  Not even sure if I want the marriage anymore because it seems to me that I am so replaceable to him that I don't trust or believe that he really loves me, or he loves just somebody to take care of him.

------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------

If there are no children involved (that would be worth more effort), I would say this relationship is over.  If he accused you of cheating, and you say you did not, living under a veil of suspicion is no way to live your life.  The question is:  Is he capable of changing his nature, or will he continue to thwart any attempt at finding true commitment and trust?  Only you can know the answer to that question but, so far, it doesn't look promising from an outsider's point of view.