Dear Miss Emily:

This guy and I have dated in the past. We ended our relationship when I found out he cheated on me. Since then, I haven't found many guys that compare to how I felt when I was with him.  Recently, I gave him another chance and so far we've been together for almost three months. Lately, we fight constantly and I'm more stressed than happy. When we are on good terms, I am happy as ever, but the good times are getting fewer and fewer and I'm lost. I love him and I know he loves me, but I don't think I can put up with the stress any longer. He is the one who cheated, yet he constantly puts me down and complains that he doesn't trust me. Every time I build up the courage to leave, something holds me back. What do I do?

----------------Miss Emily's advice-----------

Oh, how the word "love" gets tossed around so cheaply.  The love part must be a reflection of those intimate moments you have with him when tongues and bodies get co-mingled because, other than that, what are you getting out of this relationship?  He cheated, but he doesn't trust you.  He causes you stress, and insults you. Maybe you can't let go because, as a child, you loved board games and you hate to lose.  Or maybe he reminds you of an older brother who treated you shabbily when you were a kid, and you miss the verbal punches.  But whatever the reason, this relationship is going nowhere and you know it.  Do what a lot of people do, stay until the bitter end.  If it were me, knowing what I know from experience?  I'd rather sit home, alone with the cat, and watching C-span.  Sounds a tad boring, yes, but it beats feeling as if you are constantly chewing on your heart, and waiting for the other shoe to drop.