Dear Miss Emily:

Hello, I'm 19 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. It was good to start off with, but then he cheated and kept on cheating.  I have cheated once and he makes out that I'm the one who has ruined the relationship. He always says that I'm never going to find anyone better than him.  I just don't know what to do anymore.  I love him, but everyone keeps saying "you can do better."  He has changed and is not the same person he used to be.  We constantly argue and it's always my fault. Help!

--------------Dear Miss Emily-----------

You've probably been with this guy about three years too long.  At your age, it's sort of like having to shed a family member, isn't it?  You grew up with him, in a way but, truth be told, he's not family, and you can lose him like a bad rash.  Prove him wrong.  Find someone who doesn't cheat, is where you are mentally at nineteen (and not where you were at fifteen), and a guy who doesn't think using a double-standard is fair in an argument.  Or better yet, play the field. It's 2009!  That means, you should be a strong, capable female who doesn't put up with less than what she wants in life.