Dear Miss Emily,
Ok, so the girl I've been dating for a while, like I said in past e-mail, but she broke up with me. It was so extremely sudden and didn't expect it at all. 2 hours before she was supposed to come over, she went to a movie with her best friend. Then, after I get a call and she said she wasn't lying about me being the most amazing boyfriend she's ever had, she said she just got out of a relationship when she started dating me, and said she needs time to breathe and some space -- even if she falls flat on her face she needs to do this.  Now, I really like this girl a lot. This is the first girl I'ive dated that I really do care about.  I want her back, and I'm not trying to be jealous at all.  It's just shes extremely special to me and if she says she cares about me so much, then how do i do it?  What should I do to get this amazing girl back? I'm willing to do whatever it takes.

----------------------Miss Emily's advice-------------------

I hate to burst your bubble, but I don't see many options for you.  She told you how she felt.  She doesn't want to be in a relationship now.  All you can do is accept this by understanding that there are some things we can't change, no matter how much we wish it to be true.  If there is a future with her, it will depend on her developing a new mind-set, but you can't put your own life on hold waiting for this to happen, because it may not.  This kind of painful experience is a strong endorsement for wanting to develop Vucan-like, emotionless status.  However, we humans are suckers for love.  It often comes at a big price.