Dear Miss Emily:

My boyfriend went and partied with his friends last night.  He told me that this one girl came and laid by him. He told her that he had a girlfriend and didn't want to have sex, but she still had foreplay anyway and he said that it was cool. I don't think that it is very cool.  To me, it is still a form of cheating and I am very upset. He doesn't feel that I should be as upset as I am. He said that he should have just had sex with her. Am I just blowing things out of proportion?

-------------------Miss Emily's advice----------------

What he thought he gained by telling you this I do not know, but it was a good thing he did. You didn't say what kind of foreplay you are talking about, but it's an insult to you no matter what transpired.  Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot.  You're at a party and you let some guy fondle your breasts or, whatever. If he thinks that would be "no big deal" well, I'm afraid this "party animal" doesn't have the slightest idea about the meaning of loyalty and commitment. Keep an eye on him.  I don't mean follow him around to see if he does it again, I just mean watch closely how he treats you in the future. He might not be the guy for you -- just a guy who has a problem walking away from temptation and, then, tried to make you feel stupid for caring.  Oh, brother!