Dear Miss Emily:

I am trying to meet up with this women. She has a
boyfriend, and I am married. How do I win her over?
Married but single

----------------------Miss Emily's advice--------------------

Dear Married:

I like to think of myself as open minded, but this is not
a question that can be approached without some trepidation.
If you want to cheat on your wife, that's your business, but
know that when you do this (unless this is not the first time)
it opens up a web of deceit that often backfires. This person
that you are after, may be perfectly happy with her boyfriend
and has no intention of stroking your ego, nor setting herself
up to be the other woman. Most people know when someone else
is interested in them unless, of course, they natually assume
this is the case because, "Gee, isn't everyone in love with me?"
This might be a good time to take a hard look at your marriage.
Not everyone is cut out for it. If you decide it's worth
pursuing a double life, never blame anyone, but yourself, if
it fails to meet your expectations. That said, ask her out
to lunch. If she politely declines, you must settle for not
having "won her over."