Dear Miss Emily:

Okay, so I've been dating a boy long distance for about 10 months now, but we've liked each other for almost 2-3 years. I really, really care about him and love him and he means the world to me. I wouldn't want to do anything to hurt him. But, I became friends with this guy about 4 months ago and I've been hanging out with him a lot. We consider each other to be best friends now with how much time we spend together and how well we get along. Everyone insists that we must be dating with how much we click and how we're always hanging out, and its starting to get to my head and I'm starting to like him a little.  I wouldn't want to do anything to hurt my boyfriend like I said, but it would be so nice to be in a relationship with someone who actually lives near me. I'm not even sure though if the other guy likes me. Everyone insists he does, but I don't know for sure and wouldn't want to give up my boyfriend for something that's non-existent. So I'm not sure what to do. Me and my boyfriend have also been fighting a lot lately and not having the best relationship. Should I leave my boyfriend for him? Or just stay with him even though I like this other guy?

---------------Miss Emily's advice-----------

No, I don't think you should stay with your boyfriend for all the reasons you have given in your letter.  It shouldn't be a "hedging your bet" proposition.  If this new guy is turning your head, it tells me that your relationship with your boyfriend is weak, at best.  Long-distance relationships are hard to maintain and require a firm commitment to making it work, despite the disadvantage of being apart much of the time.  Tell this new guy how you feel, and see what happens. You have nothing to lose but, instead,  gain an honest attempt to do the right thing no matter what the outcome.