Dear Miss Emily:

My question is what can you advise me to do in my situation.  I have been with a man for 13 years now. We have three kids and we are experiencing a lot of issues.  First of all, he is very disrespectful and treats me bad.  He has been abusing drugs for over 5 years, now, and I am tired of it.  I do not love him anymore. However, I do care for him as he is the father of my children. I met this guy through work, and we hit it off right away. I am leaving the father of our children, however, he doesn't want to leave me.  I have never been a cheater, but I think I am ready to be happy.  Please let me know what you think.

---------------Miss Emily's advice-------------

I think you have thought about it for a long time.  You understand that you are in a loveless relationship, and with a man who not only treats you poorly, but abuses drugs.  If you can support your children emotionally, and financially, I think you are doing the right thing by leaving. Your children are the most important part of the equation, and if you can reassure them that you will always be there for support and guidance, then go out and try to make a better life for yourself. It won't be easy, but I am sure you are aware of that. Who knows what your future will hold, but distancing yourself from this man, right now, is more than reasonable.