Dear Miss Emily:

I am 31 years old and the mother of a 14 year old daughter, and 8 year old son. I am single and I am successful and I have great friends and a lot going for myself.  Anyhow, I decided to go back to school to advance my degree. I am always being hit on by younger guys, on campus, but never really thought much of it.  They don't believe my age and most say I look younger than my younger counterparts. So this guy in my class is 22.  On the last day of term, he was flirty and walked with me and payed me compliments.  I thought he was handsome, and I was intrigued by him in class because he seemed intelligent. We ended up exchanging numbers on a Wednesday, and made plans for a date on the upcoming Monday. He was very sweet, said all the right things and was quite mature for a younger guy, or so I thought. He was calling and texting non-stop and, then, we had a date on Monday and it went great!  Things got a little spicy back at his place, but I asked to go home before it went too far.  He was going to be leaving town the next day for spring break (with his guy friends) for 2 weeks.  Since we had such a good time that night, I agreed to see him before he left when he asked. We ended up having sex and, then, I began to regret things. The next morning I sent him a text telling him I thought he was incredible and just to let him know how I was feeling.  No response, all day, until I tried calling him and he didn't answer -- but sent me a text saying he was at lunch.  He called after his lunch was over, and I told him I was feeling a little funny about how fast we moved and that I was headed on a run. He said it had only been 2 days, and I shouldn't get excited and just let things take its course.  He then asked me to call after my run and we could talk. I tried calling and he didn't answer, and I have not heard from him since. I am hurt, and confused as to why he went out of his way to say he noticed me all term, bought me a gift, and took me to a fabulous restaurant for dinner and now he is MIA. Could he just be on his trip with his boys and just not able to say hi or something?  Or did I get played?  He did say early on that he wanted us to see each other after spring break was over.

------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------

If a relationship is to work at all, there should be no pressure from either party.  I know, he made all these overtures and, now, seems to be backing off.  But I wouldn't decide for sure he's changed his mind about you, because he's on this trip with the boys and that seems to be his main focus. Put your insecurities about age and, possibly, the fact that you have two children, in check. This is your life, and you have done well and should be proud. Don't e-mail him or call him until you hear from him, again.  If he's had second thoughts (and we don't know this based on his "let's just let things take its course" attitude), you'll know soon enough.  On his two week trip with the boys, I'm sure he plans on playing the field.  Remember, this sort of thing happens to everyone. Hold you head high, and don't let this experience spoil any future involvement with a younger man or any man for that matter.  Twenty-two year-old men are free spirits.  Don't expect anything too soon or, anything for that matter.  Talk is cheap -- actions speak volumes.