Not sure what to do.

Dear Miss Emily:

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and I have no idea what to do. I am 20 years old.  I've been talking to someone else for a couple of months now. I am so attracted to him, but not to the point where I could love him. I love my boyfriend.  He was my very first lover, and he treats me like an angel. Im not sure what to do about the other guy.  He’s a great friend, but I’m starting to feel as if there is more sexual tension.  I'm not sure.  Please let me know if you have any advice, thank you.


---------------------Miss Emily’s advice------------------

I think if you are put in a room with 100 guys, you might find quite a few (25?) that you would be attracted to and, if you were to talk to them on an in-depth level, well, maybe that would drop to five!  Joking, of course.  But this is my point: There are going to be all sorts of men you will meet while you are with someone else, and there will be temptations – but you have to narrow down why those temptations exist.  Ask yourself:  Is it because you have had little experience with other men and you have found one who has made you curious about what it would be like to explore other relationships?  This would be a valid reason, and it tells you that being committed to one person is not right for you at this time in your life.  Do you find this new person of interest satisfies you on a level that your current boyfriend does not?  This too is valid.  No matter that your boyfriend is, as you put it “an angel.”  That scores many points, but if he’s not keeping your attention in the ways that are important to you, he will, eventually, need to be set free to find someone he captivates. But before you make any rash moves, remember that temptations are a part of human nature and, many times, they need to be analyzed for the reasons behind them.  Weigh all the possibilities, and if you keep coming back to the fact that your boyfriend is a great guy, but does not fulfill your wants and desires, then act responsibly  – no matter if the other guy is available to you, or not.