Dear Miss Emily:

I'm absolutely 100% in love with this girl. -- but one problem, she can't get over the guy she lost her virginity to. He has a kid and a girlfriend, yet he still calls her for "booty calls," and the only reason she goes is because she wants to see him. She has even admitted that he is using her. I'm at my wits end. I would do anything for her and, no matter what solution I give her, she says she can't do it. I told her to just quit talking to him but, no, that doesn't work either. She says she doesn't have it in her. She really does want to be with me, and she really does want to get over him, but is there anything I can say or do to get her away from this "player" so that she can be happy?

------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------

Yes, this is what you can say to her.  "I've decided that I no longer want to be in the middle of a love triangle, and when you have decided to make a clean break with this guy, maybe we can try again.  Until then, I no longer wish to be manipulated, the way this guy is manipulating you."  Then what you do is stick to your words, and keep away from her.  Someone has to step up to the plate and do the right thing.  It appears it has to be you, or nothing will change.  Now if you can't do that, there isn't anything else I can say because this situation is absurd, and you have to realize it and do something about it.