Dear Miss Emily:

Okay, here's my problem. This guy and I have been going out for about 4 months and like, idk, we love each other and stuff but we were having some problems.  In the beginning, he was way too obsessive and I didn't really care one way or the other, but now it's completely opposite. I don't know what to do.  Like I said, we have some problems – different little things that most relationships go through, the guy gets tired of the girl and kinda ignores her and stuff, but when she threatens to leave him he says he'll change and fix it.  It gets hard because we were about to break-up, a couple of weeks ago, and he said he wanted to make this work.  But the next day, he goes and gets a job and ever since then we haven't really hung out. We talk on the phone and stuff but usually only when I call him first. Now its getting to a point where I don't know if I even want this to work anymore. I love him, and he says he loves me, but we just never see each other because he's too busy. What should I do?

------------------Miss Emily’s advice--------------

This relationship might be going through a slow death.  He’s got a job now, but even though this is a legitimate reason for having limited time to see you, not making any real effort is all you need to know.  Don’t think you are going through anything more than what a lot of relationships go through before they end, permanently, or take a much needed break.  It’s hard, but if you are smart, you will let nature take it’s course.  Maybe he does care, and this is all he is capable of giving to you.  But actions speak louder than words, and if this isn’t working for you, have the courage to let go, and don't internalize this as some major blow to your ego.  No relationship survives well, if all it ever does is go through the change or it’s over game, ad nauseam.  Who needs it?