Dear Miss Emily:

I am a 40 yr. old single mom who just ended an 8 yr. relationship, and met someone new.  I have very serious feelings for him, but he just wants to be friends. I am going crazy inside every time I see him.  My mom and friends want me to start dating, but all I can think about is this guy.   Please help me.
Crazy in love

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Dear Crazy In Love:

In a case like this, I am a firm believer in letting the obsession play itself out.  There is nothing I can tell you, in terms of rational advice, where I think you would listen and follow through. You will, eventually, realize the futility of your obsession and move on to fertile ground. (Don't beat yourself up. We've all been there.) Avoid, at all costs, making an ass of yourself.  Please do him, and me, this favor.  If, and this is a big IF, he ever changes his mind about you, it could hinge on your ability to play it cool, and not tip your hand.