Dear Miss Emily:

My boyfriend thought I was cheating on him, a while ago, with his best friend, which I never did. All that happened was he kissed me on the cheek in a friendly way. And last night, he text me just a normal text saying "you okay?" Now my boyfriend thinks I’m cheating on him, again, and I don't know what to do or what to say to him to persuade him I'm not. please help.

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Dear Misjudged:

Your boyfriend is obviously insecure and doesn’t have the capacity to trust you.  I’d tell him that you have no desire to cheat, but if he keeps up with the accusations, he’ll give you a reason to leave him and it will be his fault.  Stand up for yourself!  If you don’t do it now, you’ll end up allowing guys to define who you are rather than you defining yourself.  I don’t know why this friend of your boyfriend’s text you to ask if you were okay, but if he does show some interest in you other than friendship, set him straight, as well.