Dear Miss Emily:

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year now, and I love him more than anything in this whole entire world! Well, I'm 19 and he is 32. Anyway, he used to practically beg me to have sex with him, and now I am the one doing the begging! All he wants to do is play his stupid game on the computer and watch porn! Can you believe that he has actually turned sex down to watch porn instead?? And earlier, I don’t remember what quite brought this up, but he said “been there done that” and he was referring to having sex with me! What should I do?
Rejected

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Dear Rejected:

When it comes to sex, in a committed relationship, both parties have to be in agreement, and when they are not, there has to be a concerted effort to work on it.  If your boyfriend refuses to do this, he is as much telling you that you don’t really matter that much to him.  Sex is not the most important part of a relationship, but it is a special way to build intimacy if two people are in love.  Your time with him may not be at an end, but it doesn’t sound like you have a future together because of his attitude toward you.