Dear Miss Emily:

I'm 17 years old, but I think my parents are too strict. I
think I'm a pretty good kid. I get straight A's and don't
party, or anything, all the time. I currently have a job and
have been doing all right, but I called in sick one day because
I didn't want to go and wanted to sleep over at my friend's
house. I didn't think it was that big of a deal because a lot
of people do that, but my mom freaked out and got really mad at
me. She threatened to take away my car. I think a lot of
other teenagers do worse things, so I don't know why she's so
mad. I just wish my parents weren't so strict. What should I
Teenager with Uptight Parents

----------------------Miss Emily's advice---------------------

Dear Teen:

Parents, parenting -- how dare they! It would have been better
had your mother not gone ballistic, but the reasoning is sound.
The threat of taking away your car? A little over the top.
Although people do what you did, every day of the year, it looked
as if you were irresponsible. Parents don't like this, because
it makes them feel as if THEY had somehow failed. In good conscience,
they cannot sanction your lying your way out of something.
Great grades! Good for you. That shows dicipline. Discipline
your parents propagated? Don't party too hard? That's
shows good sense. Look, when you are on your own, everything
you do will be a reflection on who you are as a person. I think this might have been what your mother was, indirectly,
trying to tell you.