Dear Miss Emily:

I’ve been with my girl for about 1 ½ years.  I love her, but I don’t know if I can trust her.  I don’t  mind if she has guy friends, I’m cool with that but, last night, we're in bed and one of her guy friends called her at around three in the morning.  I’m a grown man, and I know what’s a booty call.  I didn't answer it ‘cause I wanted to see her reaction and it seemed like she was blowing him off like she was letting him know I’m with my man. .But she didn't say don’t call me at this time ever!  Now I don’t know if I want to go on with her. What do you think I should do?
Nobody’s Fool

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Dear Nobody’s Fool:

I wouldn’t necessarily label this a “booty call” unless she’s completely insane, stupid, or takes you for a fool.  If she were cheating, you think she would cover her tracks and tell this guy to call when she knows you won't be within earshot. I’d tell her that you would appreciate her making you a priority when you two are together, and see if she agrees without going ballistic.  If she flips out and tells you that you're being too possessive, that’s when I would consider calling it quits for a while and let her socialize to her heart's content.  You are right, she should be committed to you, and calls at 3 in the morning are rude and show a lack of respect.  She should have make that clear – even if the guy friend is gay!