Dear Miss Emily:

I don't think that I should be in a relationship right now, but I'm in almost 3!  I need help in breaking things off, but I don't know how to do it.  I really need help, because I'm tired of lying and tired of cheating. Please help me.
Had It

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Dear Had:

I think you are really tired of being you, right now.  If you take a look at the characteristics of someone who lies and cheats, the core is an inability to face confrontation, or lacking the courage of conviction.  It really isn’t as hard as it seems – being honest.  Once you do it, it gets easier.  And the greatest reward is that you become the friend you have always wanted.  It shows the world that you are self-assured and people respect you. So go ahead, sit these people down, one at a time, and tell the truth -- you don't want to be in a relationship because you need to spend time with you.  If they can't accept it, that's too bad, but it's your life and you have the right to live it as you see fit.  Do it before you end up spending most of your day trying to keep the lies straight -- or lying becomes second nature.  Believe me when I tell you, truth is liberating.   It makes life so much simpler, and you will have a better chance of attracting emotionally secure individuals of like mind.