Dear Miss Emily:

I am 23, and I recently had sex with a married man.  He's 34, and my brother's best friend.  We've known each other since I was 12.  He's been married for 8 years, no kids. He told me about his sexless marriage, and he's not happy.  He's not in love with her.  This is the first time he has cheated.  He wants to keep having sex.  We both know it's wrong, but we want to maybe see if this could become something one day.  What do I do?
Guilt Ridden

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Dear Guilt Ridden:

I think if you get more involved with him sexually, it could get messy down the road if he doesn’t leave his wife and you have fallen in love with him (I guess that's not a big revelation).  I’m not saying he wouldn’t leave, but it’s a gamble.  He has no children, and he’s not in love with his wife – why isn’t he making a clean break now? That takes guts, and if he's just testing the waters, make sure you don't mind being part of an experiment.  I assume your brother doesn’t know about this new event, and I suppose you will continue to hide if from him.  I am not going to take a moral stance, but if you are not used to lying, you’d better get familiar with doing it.  Affairs are exciting and exhilarating, but they can also reap tons of heartache if, and when the **** hits the fan.  In the long run, it becomes a matter of a win/loss ratio.