Dear Miss Emily,

About a month ago, a friend of mine came on to me and I accepted her advances.  After a few days, we were talking about our relationship status and agreed that we both wanted to be dating.  She told me then that she had some loose ends to tie up.  Later, I learned this meant there was another guy who had been in relationship with her, but the relationship had slowed down significantly in the recent weeks. She met him one last time and ended it with him.  After a few more days, she asked me for a break because the other guy was being a baby about getting dumped and she wanted time to deal with him. I agreed to the break. It lasted 2 days before we were back seeing each other.  The other guy still kept trying to contact her and went as far as leaving flowers at her door with a note attached.  We had 2 more incredible weeks together before she broke it off, again, and returned to the other guy.  I can handle being dumped, but not when she continues to tell me that she "misses my company," "has strong feelings for me," "loves being with me," and that "I fill a void the other guy doesn't."  I have strong feeling for her still and would love to get back together, but I don't know what to think of her actions and comments.  I don't know whether or not I should try to get back with her, or not, and how to do it.  I have put an effort in to being her friend despite all this, but her comments have made it extremely hard on my emotions to let her go.  What do you think she is doing to me and what should I do in response?
Feel Like a Yo-Yo

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Dear Feel:

No one likes to be in a three-way, especially when only one person is getting all the goodies.  This woman must be enjoying the tug-of-war, or she’d stop the charade and do what she has to do:  break it off with one of you.  If it’s you, the problem is maintaining the friendship.  This is the risk that was taken when she came on to you and, then, in the time it took to unmake a bed, there was no turning back.  Tell her she needs to make up her mind, and you are not a fool (in so many words).  It’s big of you to still offer a friendship that makes you look like the nicest, most understanding guy in the world, but enough is enough!  Have your conversations.  Talk about Obama winning the election, or your sinus headache, but keep off the subject of you and her maybe being together and how torn she is in deciding which guy deserves her attention.  A cooler shoulder will let her know you are no pushover – unless, of course, you are one.