Dear Miss Emily:

My girlfriend flirts with a lot of guys, and sometimes right in front of me. I don’t really like it, but I don’t want to talk to her about it because I don’t want her to think I don’t trust her. So what do I do?

------------------------Miss Emily’s advice--------------------

Dear Doubting:

There are two types of people who flirt:  Some people flirt because they like the attention and approval of the opposite sex.  Others will flirt because they want the attention and approval of the opposite sex and hopes it goes somewhere.  Basically, flirting is relatively harmless and what some humans do, effortlessly.  But when it’s done in front of a boyfriend (or girlfriend), it shows a blatant disregard for that person. If she’s full of winks and "come get me" behavior, I’d ask her to stop it (when you muster the courage), because it's disrespectful.  She may not be aware that her behavior offends you.  Maybe her dad didn’t (or doesn’t) show her enough attention and this behavior is a product of that void. No matter what, if she doesn’t take your feelings into consideration, she’s too deluded or self-centered to take responsibility.  That’s when you’ll have to decide if she’s worth your time and effort.